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General => Random Chat => Topic started by: garrardrj on October 09, 2017, 01:16:26 pm
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My daughter is getting married in 2019 around September . We will be paying for the day ourselves , the groom's side cannot afford to contribute. Anyone else had a situation like this ? Having had no involvement in my own wedding and the cost etc i was amazed at the cost of the venue hire ! Also the cost of catering for the wedding breakfast (Why is it called that?)
Anyway the reason for the post is what did your wedding cost and a brief outline of the type of location , ceremony , number of guests etc.......911 on hold again !
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Subscribed to this post with interest, as I will be looking at getting married in the next few years. We will probably go for something modest though!
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We got married in 2014 so the experience is relatively recent.
Ours was a Chinese wedding so not comparable with your daughters (unless of course she is also having a Chinese wedding!).
You haven't asked specifically but one way to reduce costs is to have a wedding midweek. This seems to be more and more popular. Ours was on a Tuesday. We found the advantages to having a midweek wedding were:
1) More availability for venues, photographers etc etc
2) you can haggle (quite hard) on the price - most suppliers are twiddling their thumbs during the week which puts you in a decent bargaining position.
Hope this helps
Rich
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More of an observation, based on relative's events.......Flippin loadsamoney. An outdated, over-rated waste of money for one day, is my opinion.
My wife and I paid for our own wedding, getting a loan. My wife's parents weren't well off, and I didn't think it fair to expect my parents to foot the bill under those circumstances at the time.
Much better to give them £10k as a deposit for their house, or pay off a chunk of their mortgage, if they already have one.
Unromantic, moi? - just being rational in the face of the reality that it's mega-money for just one day...... Party pooper, ha ha :indifferent:
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If she wants a big flash wedding then she needs to pay for it herself.... :wink:
At the end of the day you need to give them a budget. Anything over that then they can pay themselves. :happy2:
Or write them a blank cheque and get your pants pulled down.. up to you :signLOL:
I think ours was probably about 10k.... 70 guests. To this day, many of our friends and family still claim it was the best wedding they had ever been to.... I think we went to bed at 4am.... :drinking:
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100% with rich above on this.
My pal got a bill of 43K because he didn't follow common sense rules (mother and daughter waned everything). Now after six months the daughter has filed for a divorce and he's got reduced savings crazy world.
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We got engaged 15 years ago got a mortgage then another. 2 massive sofas and a hound. Phuff getting married with all those vows and religious stuff. Girlfriend loves fancy hols I love fly fishing and my hound. daughter left uni with US in debt :happy2: :happy2: :happy2:
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You dont have to bring
that load of nonsense religion into a wedding.... we didnt.
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This is an interesting thread with some interesting replies. As parents, we all want the best for our kids but there also comes a time when they need to stand on their own two feet. I can’t help but feel that if you were to invite the bride and groom to cover their own costs that the ceremony would be more modest. You could always put the money you expected to spend towards a deposit on their first home and I suspect everyone would be better off
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I got married 5 years ago and it cost around 15-20k. That paid for 450 guests, venue hire, food, decor, bridal dress, my suits, and bedroom redecoration (probably missed out a few things which I can't remember)
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Got married 18/04/15. (I remembered :signLOL:) church wedding,hotel reception for 90, evening do 120 & 2 week holiday in Cyprus was approx 15k.
Location/venue can make a big difference, also time of year. 2 weeks after approaching may costs were circa 1.5k more. Also do you allow children or not, we didn't which saved £900 from the bill. We're West Yorkshire.
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Good responses so far , thanks.
It will not be a religious wedding and will be at a civil ceremony venue.
Mid week weddings are the way forward imho , venues rarely booked up and as someone said all the others like photographers aren't either.
Just the venue for the day and 100 guest catering comes in at £8500.
£15k as the total cost i would be happy ...
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My two cents:
My girlfriend and I had been saving for 5 years.
Her sister and boyfriend had been saving for 5 years.
We bought a great house at a good time, did the work ourselves and doubled our value with a short term mortgage and a chunk of money left in the bank.
They spent every cent they had on a wedding, have no savings and every bit of money is spent on their rent.
Expensive weddings are a waste of money for a single day, give them the money toward something that will last longer and have a small intimate gathering with immediate family only. They'll enjoy the day just as much and if in 20 years they always wanted a fancy affair then they can renew their vows and have that elaborate party they always planned.
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^ pretty much what he said ..... our wedding cost 2k and was absolutely amazing because of the people not the venue/dress/suits ect . Friends and family helped out , was a special day not just for us but the whole family who had a hand in it all .... after all that's what it's all about , family bonds .
We were helped out with our first deposit for our house with the money that could have been spent on a lavish wedding . 12 years later and one house move we are in a 450k place with a 80k mortgage.... all because of that initial guidance /choice
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Our wedding all in cost around £11k.
That was flights to Malta for us, accommodation at a 4* hotel for 4 nights for 16 guests, a week for 8 guests (half board for everyone)
The wedding itself, the 5 course evening meal, evening entertainment, a Maserati for the day, a fabia for the rest of the week. Her dress, my suit, a 14 day honeymoon in Bali and spending money.
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Our wedding all in cost around £11k.
That was flights to Malta for us, accommodation at a 4* hotel for 4 nights for 16 guests, a week for 8 guests (half board for everyone)
The wedding itself, the 5 course evening meal, evening entertainment, a Maserati for the day, a fabia for the rest of the week. Her dress, my suit, a 14 day honeymoon in Bali and spending money.
Snap we also got married in Malta, 5* hotel and had a seven night stay. Honeymooned in Sicily as you can get boat from Malta over. We had a reception in the UK afterwards so essentially got to have two wedding days.
You save lots of money by doing things yourselves; we made our own invites using templates from Etsy and getting external companies to do the printing, we did all the decorations ourselves. As other have said if you get married on the weekends it’s more expensive than say a weekday.
Word of warning though we calling companies try not to mention the wedding straight away as that when they add the wedding tax which is around 30%.
Good Luck
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I'm pretty sure did ours for about £1500.00 but the trick is to avoid hotel and find a really nice village club which has had a recent refurb and the function room LOOKS like you are in a hotel. So not a grotty, play bingo and get a pint of mild place but a place which has a nice bowling green outside, decent bar, stage for a singer/dj and somewhere to seat all guests.
We then paid £400.00 for local butcher to do a hog roast and rest of food made ourselves ie people chipped in with a different dish.
if you can save on the venue the rest falls into place for reasonable cost
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My wife and I got married 2 years ago in Cheshire. Wasn't really my choice, had to compromise to have children lol.
We paid around 18k which included top notch food, alot of booze, photographer, dresses, suits etc, we could of done it cheaper but the location and food were better then budget.
We saved on bits were others may spend more ie flowers, cake and dresses etc.
It's all kind of case by case but I would echo the point made where by you need to set a budget because once you mention wedding the 0's soon get added on.
My wife said it helps to know priorities so you know where you can save money, e.g. we like food so spent money there but wasn't too fussed about too many decorations etc.
Dresses and suits can be cheaper from the high street shops rather then hiring.
Here's a rough idea on what we paid;
The venue £3.5k
Registrar £400ish
Food and drinks £6k
Dress £1200
3x suits and 3x shoes £400
2x bridesmaids dresses £160
Cake £200
Photographer £750
Band £700
Rings £1600
Flowers and decorations £600
Make up and hair £400
Favours £100
Miscellaneous gifts £300
Mini moon £500
Various other bits along the way
We got married on a Wednesday as it happens to be our anniversary which was also 3k cheaper.
There are some very good hotel packages available these days for around 3-5k which will include some form of entertainment, food and drink sometimes decorations and the hire of the venue.
Off season times such as November, January(not new years lol), February(not Valentine's lol) and March are cheaper and you can pick up cheaper photographer's, bands, caterers etc around then.
Haggle on everything, the worst they can say is no. Most high street jewellers will give 10% off if you ask for a deal.
Prices do go up each year too so some times is counter intuitive if your thinking of saving and having a longer engagement.
I hope this helps lol.
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Our wedding was cheap and many years ago and it still brings a smile to my face, best wedding I've ever been too (or a close second to walking my girls down the isle) .......anywho moving along........
We've helped with both our daughters "big days". Wedding can fit any budget but that budget really REALLY needs fixing and setting in stone. Stray from the budget path and all hell is let loose. Venue and food and the biggies, get those sorted within your allowance and you're half way there. Only part I recommended was the best available for our girls was the photographer/photo album as it's the only part you'll take with you after the day and when you're old and senile (like me) it's the only way you'll remember it.
But as others have said it's all about the people you share the day with, not the venue, the food, the dress, the cake, or keeping up with the bloody Jones and as for the people.....does great Aunt Vera really need to be there, only time you see here if from one do to the next, keep those numbers down to the people the happy couple really want there.
All IMHO.
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Thanks for the responses.....So far we have booked the venue (£6300 Sept 2019) booked the Caterer (£45 per head) booked pghotographer ((£1200ish).
The venue is the cost that amazed me. The Tudor Barn, Belstead....its on Facebook. Nice place but £6300 !
www.thetudorbarnbelstead.co.uk
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I'm getting married May 2018. Been saving as much as possibly while owning VW's and Audi's (constantly fixing).
With help from the fiancee father. Input of £10,000. My parents also around £2-3,000.
So far that budget combined £13,000 has gone already pretty much. Based on 130 people. So far its got us...
- Caterers.
- Canvas Marque + add-ons.
- Photographer + extra photographer at discounted rate.
- Toilets.
- Church.
- Band.
Venue is at the in-laws property (free obviously)
Still need to get a generator, alcohol etc, suits. Extra £1-2,000 estimated.
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Probs around 12-13k. Absolutely bonkers really as soon as you put the wedding label on something the price doubles.
We're getting married in September church wedding and a teepee reception on a farm with campsite by the side of the church