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Title: Do I mind my own business?
Post by: Matto on February 15, 2012, 06:14:45 pm: Got abit of a dilema and what people's opinion on it. Basically a young couple moved in next door early last year and wed late in the year, time so not long. I know them both to speak to over the fence if you like but wouldn't say proper friends. She is a teacher so is off this week as its half term. He works reasonably late as he travels. Well both me and the girlfriend have heard her 'at it' everyday this week. My missus saw someone go in yesterday and we both saw someone leave this eve.

Do I say something to him about what we know? Obviosly I would be opening a whole can of worms but she is less than discreet about it. Rather vocal and took him wherever tonight once they'd done. I'm in 2 minds as I have been on the end of the cheating stick myself so not sure.
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Post by: vwrascal on February 15, 2012, 06:18:28 pm: Id tell the poor fella, only because i'd want to be told if that was my missus :happy2:
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Post by: stealthwolf on February 15, 2012, 06:22:12 pm: I would be careful in your approach. Would be fekkin embarassing him to find out directly from you. I'd probably say something like "it's very noisy during the day, could you please keep it quiet?". If he still didn't get the hint, I'd suggest they keep quieter during sex. Let him think that you think it's him and let him work it out.
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Post by: 182_blue on February 15, 2012, 06:23:28 pm: IMO yes mind your own business, lets face it its not going to make you popular with either of them is it.
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Post by: vRS Carl on February 15, 2012, 06:30:23 pm: She might be an energetic cleaner. Or she might have the latest Fistmaster 5000 :grin:

In all seriousness then i would stay well out. For a start the other half may well be fully aware (some people are like that) and won't appreciate you implying that she is cheating. Even if she is cheating it won't do you any favours if you tell him. Your not good friends so i would just stay well out of it.
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Post by: Weston on February 15, 2012, 06:50:01 pm: I think this is Jeremy Kyle territory :laugh:
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Post by: vRStu on February 15, 2012, 07:06:35 pm: I'd go with the fistmaster 5000 theory. Works best for the visual perception. :evilgrin:

You could ask him if he spends a lot on batteries as his wife seems to get off a lot when he's not there.

Is she fit? Do you see an opening for yourself???

Final theory - perhaps he's in on it and either can't provide everything she needs or gets off on the thought of someone else kicking his Mrs back doors in on a daily basis.
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Post by: hugh jass on February 15, 2012, 07:16:34 pm: stick a message in the local rag :signLOL:
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Post by: af1 on February 15, 2012, 07:22:59 pm: you never know, it might be their 'lifestyle'

unless there is fear of imminent danger to persons or property.. stay out ;)
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Post by: RENNTAG on February 15, 2012, 07:29:49 pm: I would tell him. I would want to be told and its gonna carry on till he finds out i guess.
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Post by: ub7rm on February 15, 2012, 07:38:04 pm: I'm in the leave well alone camp. You won't get any thanks for your efforts and as the messenger you might even get shot. If she's that indiscreet its only a matter of time till he finds out, if he's not already aware.

Otherwise stealthwolf's approach is probably the best way of doing it.
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Post by: Steve Baker on February 15, 2012, 07:48:43 pm: I would leave well alone........it will get ugly!
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Post by: garrardrj on February 15, 2012, 07:53:26 pm: Do not get involved. Most murders occur surrounding domestic situations that got out of hand.
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Post by: Saintsteve on February 15, 2012, 07:55:58 pm: Are you sure she's a school teacher and not a Escort :laugh:
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Post by: JoeDarKa on February 15, 2012, 08:00:47 pm: Would leave it well alone!
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Post by: Bane on February 15, 2012, 08:01:27 pm: :signLOL: should have made this a poll!
You don't know them that well except to say hello to,then I would strike up a conversation sometime,along the lines of "Are you doing some home improvements? I only ask,because there seems to be a few blokes coming and a lot of banging going on."
Job done. :happy2:
Title: Re: Do I mind my own business?
Post by: JJ on February 15, 2012, 08:03:41 pm: If everything is as it seems, it doesn't sound like their marriage will last long. He ought to be made aware of what she's upto when he's not around but I wouldn't like to be the one to tell him. If you're not that friendly with them I'd leave it unless her daily screams of pleasure become a noise nuisance.
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Post by: Saintsteve on February 15, 2012, 08:04:23 pm: Quote from: Bane on February 15, 2012, 08:01:27 pm
:signLOL: should have made this a poll!
You don't know them that well except to say hello to,then I would strike up a conversation sometime,along the lines of "Are you doing some home improvements? I only ask,because there seems to be a few blokes coming and a lot of banging going on."
Job done. :happy2:

:laugh:
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Post by: Deako on February 15, 2012, 08:35:07 pm: I'd want to know if it was me. So I'd suggest sending him an anonymous letter or something. You could actually post it as well, to avoid suspicion.
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Post by: jimojameso on February 15, 2012, 08:47:55 pm: I agree with Deako!! :happy2:
Title: Re: Do I mind my own business?
Post by: Little_Dave on February 15, 2012, 08:58:11 pm: Surely if the husband knew about it and let her do it he'd be there in the wardrobe with JVC in one, head to foot in PVC and something else in the other? :popcornsoda:

Like others have said if the noise was getting too much and disturbing you i'd probably ring the doorbell during one of her sessions and ask for something i'd lent them back and when she comes to the door all over the place i'd ask if her hubby was in and could come to the door? :evilgrin:

Dave
Title: Re: Do I mind my own business?
Post by: JPC on February 15, 2012, 08:58:16 pm: ah tw@t! you can't start a thread like this and then have us never knowing the outcome!

i think you should go over and say "heres the story.... i think your cheating on the husband or selling your muff for some extra dough in the hols. Thing is, i posted up the story on mk5golfgti.co.uk and all the lads wants to whats actually going on. If you tell me and let me have a go, i promise i won't tell your husband"

haha!
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Post by: JPC on February 15, 2012, 08:59:21 pm: oh and btw...

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Post by: Hedge on February 15, 2012, 09:02:11 pm: Forum meet? :popcornsoda:
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Post by: JackG on February 15, 2012, 09:02:20 pm: Put yourself in the poor blokes shoes guys! He's out hard at work and his wife is at it with someone else :fighting:

I'd like to be told, even if someone said it to me i would feel respected by the person who's telling me weather it be right or wrong it shows care an respect wich is something that's not seen alot today,
Just have a private chat to the guy,

If it kicks off start another thread asking for help in the scrap and were all rock up in the GTi's :signLOL:
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Post by: gti yorks on February 15, 2012, 09:03:14 pm: She could be watching porn with the volume turned up full blast :grin:
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Post by: tony_danza on February 15, 2012, 09:05:05 pm: I wouldn't touch that situation with a sh*tty stick, certainly don't approach the one doing the cheating. You familiar with the phrase "attack is the best form of defense"? Who knows what they'd do to protect the secret or make you out to be the bad person.
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Post by: RobH on February 15, 2012, 09:09:58 pm: Just ask her how much :grin:

Is it a different guy visiting each time?
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Post by: Ifti on February 15, 2012, 09:21:27 pm: I would tell the poor guy.
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Post by: Richie18-1987 on February 15, 2012, 09:24:55 pm: Any room for a jetta when all the GTi's go rocking up there I've got the boot for any dead bodies when its all over. :signLOL:
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Post by: VC on February 15, 2012, 09:26:43 pm: Every holes a goal, wait till hubby goes out then go slip her one...all this discussion over something so simple :grin:
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Post by: sub39h on February 15, 2012, 09:29:41 pm: stay out. no good will come of you telling him
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Post by: monte on February 15, 2012, 09:31:07 pm: Stakeout :evilgrin:

Video evidence :laugh:
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Post by: Richie18-1987 on February 15, 2012, 09:31:25 pm: I know Just think a quick fist and then open the back doors all on your front door now thats what i call door to door service :laugh:
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Post by: Hedge on February 15, 2012, 09:39:22 pm: :signLOL:
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Post by: Johnny_tro on February 15, 2012, 09:40:33 pm: its a 50/50 < and its down to HIS personality.....

I would say tell him, I would want to know and I would thank you for it.

Try and be outside, cleaning the car....putting the bags out lol try and make it a chance meeting and make small talk.......

- Hi Im so and so.....
- how you finding it round here? is it just you and you wife here?
- what is it you do?
- OOooo so your away a lot......

Then, on your 3rd chance meeting, say listen you seem a lovely guy do you have 2 mins?

then very simply say "I understand its non of my business..........BUT.................and tell him
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Post by: VC on February 15, 2012, 09:42:05 pm: .....that his wife's a crackin shag :pomppomp:
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Post by: Tamiyoman on February 15, 2012, 09:56:04 pm: Quote from: Deako on February 15, 2012, 08:35:07 pm
I'd want to know if it was me. So I'd suggest sending him an anonymous letter or something. You could actually post it as well, to avoid suspicion.

Yup anonymous letter (Typed not written and dont sign it "Nosey Nextdoor") and post it locally addressed to him, either that or slightly more risky option of sticking said letter under his wiper although more rick involved :happy2:

Oh and dont say in the letter you can hear her at it all day doh :surprised:
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Post by: QD MBE on February 15, 2012, 09:57:47 pm: Quote from: VC on February 15, 2012, 09:26:43 pm
Every holes a goal, wait till hubby goes out then go slip her one...all this discussion over something so simple :grin:

Winner. My thoughts were to nip round with a game of twister and 2 bottles of baby oil. Just don't push back............

:booty:
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Post by: Tfsi_Mike on February 15, 2012, 10:02:03 pm: I'd want to know, it's just how to go about it :-/

Up for the meet :grin:
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Post by: JackG on February 15, 2012, 10:05:04 pm: Quote from: Tfsi_Mike on February 15, 2012, 10:02:03 pm

I'd want to know, it's just how to go about it :-/

Up for the meet :grin:
It's going to be a massive brawl! :party: everyone bring your "fast" for there awesome evil advice :signLOL:
Title: Re: Do I mind my own business?
Post by: Johnny_tro on February 15, 2012, 10:14:34 pm: :signLOL:

The general opinions ALL come down to one thing (or so it seems)

If she looks HOT < Get in there

If its a dog < Tell him

As I said - I'd wish to know and would thank you for it.........
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Post by: Richie18-1987 on February 15, 2012, 10:18:19 pm: Don't think you could have put that any better mate :signLOL:
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Post by: Nasir on February 15, 2012, 10:32:43 pm: Oh man, I was unsure whether to open this thread but I'm glad I did. Made me :signLOL:

Main question is, is she fit?
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Post by: jhtrophy on February 15, 2012, 10:52:51 pm: Our lass is a teacher, this lad don't drive a BMW 123d does he? :signLOL:
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Post by: Richie18-1987 on February 15, 2012, 10:55:53 pm: :signLOL:
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Post by: Matto on February 15, 2012, 10:56:28 pm: Been busy all night and just caught up on here. Some good replies :signLOL:

I would say she ain't bad. I've had a lot worse when times were hard, excuse the pun. Probably about a 7 I'd say.

Could get a meet goin yeah...no offroad parking though.

As others had said I'd like to be told but I also don't want to cause a load of hassle for myself.
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Post by: Poverty on February 15, 2012, 10:58:30 pm: Get your piece. Blackmail her :happy2:
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Post by: Richie18-1987 on February 15, 2012, 11:03:32 pm: Ye tell her that if you dont get a blo==ob at least then your gonna tell her fella whats been goin on :signLOL:
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Post by: Greeners on February 15, 2012, 11:08:08 pm: Two words.......

Wide Berth!!!

But have to agree with some of the more astute members and recommend smashing her back doors in if she's up for it!! :jumpmove:
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Post by: Johnny_tro on February 15, 2012, 11:11:05 pm: No, she drives a 206 (silver) and her names Sarah :ashamed:

He is Martin
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Post by: Bane on February 15, 2012, 11:11:23 pm: Quote from: Greeners on February 15, 2012, 11:08:08 pm
Two words.......

Wide Berth!!!

But have to agree with some of the more astute members and recommend smashing her back doors in if she's up for it!! :jumpmove:

Rosebud. :booty:

Too far...? :sick:
Title: Re: Do I mind my own business?
Post by: Matto on February 15, 2012, 11:13:57 pm: If I wasn't already spoken for I would have done a test ride for you all and posted in Product Reviews and maybe in the Recommendations section depending on how it went.
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Post by: Hurdy on February 15, 2012, 11:22:37 pm: Get to know your neighbours individually and then you may learn more about their relationship. Then make a decision.

Until then "say nowt!"
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Post by: Janner_Sy on February 15, 2012, 11:31:28 pm: Quote from: vRS Carl on February 15, 2012, 06:30:23 pm
She might be an energetic cleaner. Or she might have the latest Fistmaster 5000 :grin:

In all seriousness then i would stay well out. For a start the other half may well be fully aware (some people are like that) and won't appreciate you implying that she is cheating. Even if she is cheating it won't do you any favours if you tell him. Your not good friends so i would just stay well out of it.

Lol brilliant.

its normally at this point we ask for pictures

but

I WANT SOUND CLIPS
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Post by: Richie18-1987 on February 15, 2012, 11:46:52 pm: :signLOL: Fantastic
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Post by: vRS Carl on February 16, 2012, 06:53:28 am: Quote from: Matto on February 15, 2012, 10:56:28 pm
I would say she ain't bad. I've had a lot worse when times were hard, excuse the pun. Probably about a 7 I'd say.

In that case.....

Man the Fcuk up and get some back door boogie going
:evilgrin: :evilgrin:
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Post by: RedRobin on February 16, 2012, 09:18:21 am: Quote from: Johnny_tro on February 15, 2012, 09:40:33 pm

- OOooo so your away a lot......

Then, on your 3rd chance meeting, say listen you seem a lovely guy do you have 2 mins?

....Really!? He's gonna then be convinced you are gay!

My advice is:

A) - As he is only an acquaintance, stay out of it. It could get messy.

B) - If he became a good friend, and it was still going on, then tell him what you think might be going on. But remember that you don't actually know what's going on, and neither do the other neighbours, so don't take their gossip as truth. It would be very awkward if she was also a close friend.

I would only tell someone who is a close friend and, even then, with tactful diplomacy.
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Post by: nezquick on February 16, 2012, 10:40:20 am: 1:50min

Its really sad there are programmes like this but...the fights are always good!

Personally I'd like to be told if my misses is playing the away game neighbour or other, just so long as I was told and stopped looking like a mug. Short term might be sh*tty but its not like you have to actually live with him then eventually his likely to thank you for being honest with him. Just my two cence just put yourself into his shoes. At least when he knows he can either move on with his life and find someone better or they can actually sort it out between them.

OR

Like someone else said here why not try the old "can you keep it down next time" routine?
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Post by: RedRobin on February 16, 2012, 12:09:38 pm: ^^^^
I actually enjoyed that vid! [TeaLeaf?] :happy2:

The truth will always out and it probably saved all involved from what was probably going to be a disastrous marriage.

I discovered that my now ex wife was cheating before anyone had to tell me. I would want to have been told and would have considered that any close friend who knew but didn't tell me wasn't really a good friend.

Good friends look out for each other.
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Post by: nezquick on February 16, 2012, 12:25:21 pm: Quote from: RedRobin on February 16, 2012, 12:09:38 pm
^^^^
I actually enjoyed that vid! [TeaLeaf?] :happy2:

The truth will always out and it probably saved all involved from what was probably going to be a disastrous marriage.

I discovered that my now ex wife was cheating before anyone had to tell me. I would want to have been told and would have considered that any close friend who knew but didn't tell me wasn't really a good friend.

Good friends look out for each other.

Yup :happy2: Tealeaf (wierd nick names always stick don't they?) I know it is quite a funny programme but at the same time you always feel a little sorry for people being televised when its personal.

Good friends look out for each other - x1
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Post by: nezquick on February 16, 2012, 12:30:04 pm: Oh and on one of them, made me laugh so much, she caught him in a warehouse with the receptionist butt naked with all these cameras haha then she chased them around smashing up stuff and then went to him "lets talk, over here lets go for a talk" into some cage thing and when he walked in she quickly turned around and locked him in there with the padlock! and walked off with him going "dont leave me here, please don't leave me like this!" :congrats: :signLOL:
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Post by: RedRobin on February 16, 2012, 12:44:12 pm: Quote from: nezquick on February 16, 2012, 12:30:04 pm

Oh and on one of them, made me laugh so much, she caught him in a warehouse with the receptionist butt naked with all these cameras haha then she chased them around smashing up stuff and then went to him "lets talk, over here lets go for a talk" into some cage thing and when he walked in she quickly turned around and locked him in there with the padlock! and walked off with him going "dont leave me here, please don't leave me like this!" :congrats: :signLOL:

....Do you mean there's more vids like this? Linky for that one, please! :drinking:

It's a fact that so much of what we find funny is invariably based on someone else's misfortune or mistake. Ministry of Silly Walks? :happy2:
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Post by: nezquick on February 16, 2012, 01:08:44 pm: skip straight to 5 mins :signLOL:

Yeah its an actual tv show in america. I think its on 5 usa on freeview every night at like ten. Youtube is where the highlights are, Ill try and hunt down the warehouse one down cos that is proper funny.

Ey, that is humanity for you though. Its like when your mate is showing off and really hurts himself its so funny but when its you its the least funny thing. Yup :happy2: huuuuuggge monty fan!
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Post by: nezquick on February 16, 2012, 01:13:19 pm: its the way she hits him with the shoe that makes me laugh at 5.20min :signLOL:
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Post by: Golfgirl on February 16, 2012, 03:56:27 pm: I'd get to know him a bit better first, make him more of a mate than a neighbour and then it may be easier to say something. Take him to the pub once a week for a pint to develop that friendship.

You could always go along the lines of Environmental Health for it being a noise nuisance. I'm not sure how that works though, they'd probably encourage you to resolve the matter yourself first before they investigate. Plus the woman would know that it was one of the neighbours that has complained, although it allows someone else to break the news to the bloke in stead of you!

Just think whether you could live with the consequences....if you tell them and they split up and the wife ends up keeping the house things would be very awkward :popcornsoda:. If the bloke keeps the house though you may have found a new best mate :happy2:

Do you hear the husband and wife at it too or just the wife and the bit on the side?
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Post by: mvb12 on February 16, 2012, 03:59:56 pm: I would invest in some new walls.... then again :popcornsoda:
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Post by: SRC on February 16, 2012, 05:15:07 pm: Quote from: Johnny_tro on February 15, 2012, 11:11:05 pm
No, she drives a 206 (silver) and her names Sarah :ashamed:

He is Martin

Hang on. My name's Martin. My wife's Sarah. She drives a silver 206.

Quote from: Matto on February 15, 2012, 10:56:28 pm

I would say she ain't bad. I've had a lot worse when times were hard, excuse the pun. Probably about a 7 I'd say.

Oh, that's OK. She's barely a four. :grin:
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Post by: Weston on February 16, 2012, 08:39:58 pm: Quote from: SRC on February 16, 2012, 05:15:07 pm
Quote from: Johnny_tro on February 15, 2012, 11:11:05 pm
No, she drives a 206 (silver) and her names Sarah :ashamed:

He is Martin

Hang on. My name's Martin. My wife's Sarah. She drives a silver 206.

Quote from: Matto on February 15, 2012, 10:56:28 pm

I would say she ain't bad. I've had a lot worse when times were hard, excuse the pun. Probably about a 7 I'd say.

Oh, that's OK. She's barely a four. :grin:

:signLOL: let's hope she doesn't see this!
Title: Re: Do I mind my own business?
Post by: Johnny_tro on February 16, 2012, 08:54:02 pm: Well...........the story gets better. I drove past earlier today. Is the husband/partner stupid? has he not picked up on the tell-tail signs??? :grin: :grin:

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Post by: RedRobin on February 16, 2012, 08:55:13 pm: ^^^^
:signLOL:

Nice one! Johnny! :happy2:
Title: Re: Do I mind my own business?
Post by: Richhero on February 18, 2012, 09:05:54 am: Quote from: Golfgirl on February 16, 2012, 03:56:27 pm

You could always go along the lines of Environmental Health for it being a noise nuisance.

Good shout, they might give you a tape recorder. Didn't someone ask for a sound clip?
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Post by: RedRobin on February 18, 2012, 09:28:53 am: Quote from: Richhero on February 18, 2012, 09:05:54 am
Quote from: Golfgirl on February 16, 2012, 03:56:27 pm

You could always go along the lines of Environmental Health for it being a noise nuisance.

Good shout, they might give you a tape recorder. Didn't someone ask for a sound clip?

....Yes please! I could then create a music track using it. :evilgrin:

Perhaps she works from home for SexSounds.com: http://www.soundrangers.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=category.display&category_ID=488