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Losing a close friend
Dave J:
I'm really sorry, I haven't quoted each of your posts above (and Degudodger - I can't imagine what you've been through, but your words are so right - life IS fleeting...) ,& I do sincerely thank each of you for your input. :drinking:
One of the few things I can do for my best mate John is to post up his youtube links to share with you his driving, which he was still ever improving and enjoying in his mx-5 RS Ltd, right up to his last weekend.
Here's a vid of a wet Donington with him following me for a little while from 4mins 10...
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Here from 8mins 20...
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Oh, such good times mate...
r5gtt:
Sorry to hear of your unfortunate loss mate.
Hope you feel better in time as it's not nice to lose a close family or friend.
R5
Degudodger:
--- Quote from: Dave J on February 28, 2016, 10:19:12 pm ---I'm really sorry, I haven't quoted each of your posts above (and Degudodger - I can't imagine what you've been through, but your words are so right - life IS fleeting...) ,& I do sincerely thank each of you for your input. :drinking:
One of the few things I can do for my best mate John is to post up his youtube links to share with you his driving, which he was still ever improving and enjoying in his mx-5 RS Ltd, right up to his last weekend.
Here's a vid of a wet Donington with him following me for a little while from 4mins 10...
dlBvA
Here from 8mins 20...
dlBvA
dlBvA
Oh, such good times mate...
--- End quote ---
Its a strange feeling. I have my moments and no doubt will have crap days, like you will however there is nothing i can do to change what has happened. I just need to crack on with things.
Always remember the good times - never dwell on the what if's or i should haves.
Dave J:
Agree 100% with you! It was still another $hit weekend, but a happy $hit weekend with his partner & sister - lots of laughs about what we did together. The stories you forget over the years... :grin:
Dave J:
Well, I'm utterly sad to say that I've found out a lot more this week, and all the hopes I'd had of an underlying condition or accident have been crushed by the fact my mate deliberately took his own life in the MX-5 he loved.
As all I've read - he must have been in a terrible mental state (of which there was no sign) to have done this, but I think we'll never know why. He had (to us friends) a vibrant happy life, lots of wit, banter, travelling, good job, long term partner, an amazing house that they'd worked on for a couple of years. Don't believe there were money worries, and he was doing everything he loved even to his last weekend.
Something must have really got to him somehow, and I don't know why on that specific day. I do suspect work, but so sad given he was due a promotion the next day. Maybe something had gone terribly wrong and he couldn't see a way out without losing face / status.
Realising the fact that we'll probably never actually know why, but are gutted that he couldn't share with us how he was feeling, I wouldn't EVER think less of him for asking for help - I'd have been there. Still, he was always competitive & proud - maybe the trait of not lending himself to reaching out.
Sorry for such a post, we're all trying to find answers, which I think won't be found...
Dave
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