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Losing a close friend
Dave J:
--- Quote from: maxitrol on February 22, 2016, 10:15:29 pm ---Sorry for the loss Dave,One of my best mates past away suddenly last year with no warning at all as he was in good health
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Thanks Andy - sorry to hear yours news too. It's just such a horrible shock.
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--- Quote from: Dave J on February 22, 2016, 10:07:55 pm ---Sadly, I keep thinking about the things we haven't done
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Firstly, I'm so sorry to learn of your loss ... I couldn't imagine losing my best mate :sad1:
The only advice I can possibly give, and the reason I quoted the above specific line, don't dwell on what could have been, remember your friend for who he was and the great memories you shared. Remember him when you were having a right laugh, remember the events you did go to together.
I hope that you can find a way to deal with the loss .. Obviously as best as anyone could do
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Cheers Adam - some great advice there. You're right, mustn't dwell on what we didn't get to do. Definitely have some fantastic memories, and hearing other funny stories from his Uni mates & other people in his life that I didn't know, certainly helps bring a smile.
--- Quote from: gtavalanche on February 23, 2016, 08:28:58 pm ---Sorry for your loss, best thing you could do in his memory is to do the things you planned together but maybe try to raise some money for a charity that means something to him or you or even his family.
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Many thanks - we're definitely doing something for charity which relates to the things he enjoyed in life.
--- Quote from: AJP on February 23, 2016, 08:46:06 pm ---I couldn't say better than Adam said here.
Really sorry for your loss man. Time heals. Might not feel that way now, but it does.
KOKO.
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Thanks AJP - that's very true. Life goes on, and keeping busy helps. Just willing to remain strong for his family and partner, as it must be so much worse for them.
MC71:
Sorry to read this Dave. :sad1:
No words do justice to a loss but as others have said time helps but for you it's too soon and too raw at the moment. I lost a great friend to Cancer a few years ago and I still miss him dearly. You'll find solace in memories that make you smile and others laugh but that will come in time.
As with family members who die they will always be with you as long as you talk about them, remembering them and sharing stories with others who knew them.
prp74:
Really sorry to hear this. Can't imagine losing a close friend. Hope you are ok and just remember the good times you had. It seems you have a good group of friends and talking about it will keep his memories alive. All the best.
Degudodger:
On this occasion, unfortunately Dave i know how you feel and do honestly feel your pain.
Next week it will be 12 months since i lost my youngest sister to a terminal illness, add to that, having lost five members of family in as many years, my wife undergoing treatment for late stage 3 Cancer a couple of years ago and being told to prepare for the worse i have become numb to it. My friend's mother who i have known for 30+ years passed suddenly 6 months ago and i felt absolutely no emotion. Nothing. It felt horrendous as to the onlooker it must have looked like i just didn't care but i did, maybe more than they will ever know but i was unable to express myself.
Life is fleeting. Recent events have underscored exactly how precious our time is on this rock. Care less of what others think, eat that doughnut, have that pint, don't go to Ikea, walk around on a Sunday scratching. Just do what makes you and your family happy and most importantly ditch Facebook as it only makes you bitter.
MC71:
--- Quote from: Degudodger on February 24, 2016, 06:57:43 pm ---On this occasion, unfortunately Dave i know how you feel and do honestly feel your pain.
Next week it will be 12 months since i lost my youngest sister to a terminal illness, add to that, having lost five members of family in as many years, my wife undergoing treatment for late stage 3 Cancer a couple of years ago and being told to prepare for the worse i have become numb to it. My friend's mother who i have known for 30+ years passed suddenly 6 months ago and i felt absolutely no emotion. Nothing. It felt horrendous as to the onlooker it must have looked like i just didn't care but i did, maybe more than they will ever know but i was unable to express myself.
Life is fleeting. Recent events have underscored exactly how little precious our time we have on this rock. Care less of what others think, eat that doughnut, have that pint, don't go to Ikea, walk around on a Sunday scratching. Just do what makes you and your family happy and most importantly ditch Facebook as it only makes you bitter.
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Very well said.
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